Phoenix Bird


Dear friends and family,

I am creating this message for those people in my life who I love and care for, and I hope you all take it very seriously. Last night I attended a personal safety workshop, and it jolted me. It was given by an amazing man, Pat Malone, who has been a body guard for famous figures like Farrah Fawcett and Sylvester Stallone. He works for the FBI, and teaches police officers and Navy SEALS hand-to-hand combat.

This man has seen it all, and knows a lot. He focused his teachings to us on How To Avoid Being The Victim Of A Violent Crime. He gave us some statistics about how much the occurrences of random violence have escalated over the recent years, and it's terrible. Something like 99% of us will be exposed/a victim of a violent crime. Here are some of the most important points that I got out of his presentation:

The three reasons women are easy targets for random acts of violence are:

Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc). Don't do this! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. As soon as you get into your car, lock the doors and leave. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

Always take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone.)

If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, always run!

As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: stop it, it may get you raped, or killed.

Tips to saving your life, if you have gotten into a violent situation:

Resist: don't go along with him: run, if you are able

Always keep your distance when walking past strangers on the street or in dark areas.

 Get A Cell Phone.

Breakdowns: (avoid this by always keeping your car in good working order)

  • And you're on a desolate road:
  • Physical defenses that we can use against the violent predator:

    If you are walking alone in the dark (which you shouldn't be) and you find him following/chasing you:

    I didn't mean to scare you with any of this, but honestly, I hope it did. It should. Our world is not as safe as we pretend that it is, and living in our fantasy worlds will get us in trouble, sooner or later.

    "It won't happen to me" doesn't cut it, and is a bogus expectation anyway. Pat Malone said again and again that the women who die every minute from violent crimes expected to go to bed tonight, and get up tomorrow, and do it all over again, and again, and again. No one expects it, but we must be prepared and aware so that we have a plan.

    I would encourage you to pass this on to all women, not just your friends and family, but everybody. We all need to hear it.